Who has your back?
Often I’m asked how I’m keeping it altogether with having a business, still working a full-time job (in a leadership position), going back to school for my doctorate, making myself available for my daughter and all of her activities, AND spending time with my significant other. The answer for me is easy…I truly make time for the things that are important to me, and every single thing on that list is important to me.
You know what else? I have an amazing support system that understands my goals and the sacrifices that I will need to make at times.
Having a good support system plays a huge role in keeping my sanity. I refuse to surround myself with anyone other than the people that truly take care for me. I stress to people all the time that when they want to excel at something, they need to re-evaluate who they have in their corner.
Do you know who really is a support to you?
I'm not talking about just someone you can call and vent to, which is still important to have, but someone who can help you with finding solutions. Someone who will call you out when you aren’t doing the things you said you were going to do. Having someone to hold you accountable when you fall off track.
A good support system won’t make you feel guilty when you need to spend more time on yourself and less time “hanging out.” They understand that they may not talk to you as often as they used to and won’t hold it against you. They will be genuinely proud of you when you accomplish those goals that you set for yourself, and will announce it to the world.
If you have people in your life that don’t give you that positive vibe and support, it may be time to leave them behind. You can’t grow holding onto dead weight.
Some people aren’t ready to grow at your same speed, and that’s alright. If it is someone that you really love and care for, it can be tough to move on without them, but you can’t get to where you want to be if you don’t have the support around you that you need.
So I leave with this question…
Is your support system helping you grow??
-Colby Jones, MHA